Chapter 7 of 8

Push-pull

2 min read

Pick the pattern you recognise

Fast and hot: days to weeks

They pull you close, end it in tears, then come back weeks later. Why this fast cycle grips an anxious partner, and how to get off it.

8 min read

Slow and cool: a fade and a return

They fade out over weeks, go quiet for months, then text like nothing happened. Why the slow cycle hooks an anxious heart, and how to get off it.

8 min read

Article9 min read

Why some couples break up and get back together again and again: the fast fearful-avoidant cycle, the slow dismissive fade and return, and…

Guide8 min read

They fade out over weeks, go quiet for months, then text like nothing happened. Why the slow cycle hooks an anxious heart, and how to get…

Why: hand-picked as a companion

Guide8 min read

They fade, you let them, and months later they're back like nothing happened. Why the quiet cycle feels easy to you, and how to step off it…

Why: hand-picked as a companion

Guide8 min read

A slow fade, months of quiet, then 'hey, been thinking about you'. Why the dismissive cycle fits your own fears so neatly, and how to stop…

Why: hand-picked as a companion