Chapter 7 of 8
Push-pull
Pick the pattern you recognise
Fast and hot: days to weeks
Fearful-avoidant push-pull
They end it, then they're back within weeks, sorry and sure. How to stay steady through the cycle without becoming the place it keeps landing.
Slow and cool: a fade and a return
Dismissive-avoidant push-pull
They fade out when it gets serious and drift back months later. You stay calm every time. This guide is about whether calm is enough, and how to stop the loop.
Start with the explainer
The Push-Pull Cycle: Why Some Relationships Keep Ending and Restarting
Why some couples break up and get back together again and again: the fast fearful-avoidant cycle, the slow dismissive fade and return, and…
Keep going
Dismissive-Avoidant Push-Pull, for an Anxious Partner: The Survival Guide
They fade out over weeks, go quiet for months, then text like nothing happened. Why the slow cycle hooks an anxious heart, and how to get…
Why: hand-picked as a companion
Dismissive-Avoidant Push-Pull, for a Dismissive-Avoidant Partner: The Guide
They fade, you let them, and months later they're back like nothing happened. Why the quiet cycle feels easy to you, and how to step off it…
Why: hand-picked as a companion
Dismissive-Avoidant Push-Pull, for a Fearful-Avoidant Partner: Survival Guide
A slow fade, months of quiet, then 'hey, been thinking about you'. Why the dismissive cycle fits your own fears so neatly, and how to stop…
Why: hand-picked as a companion
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